Before you have sex with someone, you should learn how to finger yourself. When it’s your partner’s turn to please you, you’ll know just how to guide them.
Everyone likes having the option of having sex as opposed to masturbating, but it’s normal that everyone goes through some dry spells too. During those dry spells, you should be able to self-satisfy your needs. If you don’t know how to finger yourself and get yourself off, your partner will not know either.
What does it mean to finger yourself?
First things first if you’re a newbie, or if you’ve found your fingers wandering down there one lazy night, and you’re scared. Fingering yourself is normal, and it’s something anyone who wants to pleasure themselves would do. If you’ve ever run your fingers down there, and let it linger just a wee bit longer because it feels good, well, you’ve been fingering yourself!
It feels so good, but you don’t know whether you should go on or just stop. Will it get better? Should you go deeper? So many questions! But we have all the answers!
Why should you finger yourself?
Why shouldn’t you? It’s great if you have someone to have sex with. But when the horny moment strikes, or even if you’re just exploring yourself down there, learning how to finger yourself is an art that has many benefits.
You can actually understand first hand what turns you on and arouses you, because each person is different. And what works for another girl may not work for you. And secondly, understanding your own “hot spots” and moves that feel great can help you guide anyone you get sexually intimate with, to satisfy you better.
How to finger yourself correctly
If you follow the steps we’ve shared below, you should have no problems with learning how to finger yourself correctly, and in a way that won’t hurt you. But the easiest and simplest way to understand it is this, if it hurts you, you’re doing something wrong.
Fingering yourself just shouldn’t hurt at all. The longer you play with yourself, the better it should feel. And more smoother and easier too. Usually, if you do feel any kind of pain, it’s probably because your nails snicked the delicate regions down there. Take it slow, start with one finger, and work your way towards what feels best.
And of course, follow these steps we’ve shared below.
The right fingering techniques – How to finger yourself and learn to experience orgasms by yourself
Whether you’re still a virgin or very experienced in the sack, it’s always fun to have some solo sex. But if you’re in a rut with nothing but your vibrator, don’t worry. Here are some tips on how to properly finger yourself.
#1 Wash your hands. In the movies, the girl is usually on her bed texting and suddenly she gets an urge to masturbate. Okay, do you know how much bacteria is on a cell phone?
You’re in the moment, I get that. But quickly running to the bathroom to wash your hands isn’t a bad idea. It takes less than a minute. Your vagina is your holy temple, so just go the extra step in making sure you’re not allowing bad bacteria to go inside. Wash. Your. Hands.
#2 Hygiene, ladies. Aside from washing your hands, you want to make sure that your hygiene is kept up. Make sure your fingernails are clean as a lot of bacteria nestle underneath them.
In addition, also make sure your vagina is clean and fresh. You don’t want an infection. Besides, masturbating when you’re fresh just feels better.
#3 You don’t have to start at your vagina. When turning yourself on, you don’t have to all of a sudden make a bull’s eye to your vagina. You can actually start by rubbing and squeezing your breasts, sucking on your fingers and then start to rub or touch your vagina.
Women take longer to get turned on, and so you should take your time warming up your body. Enjoy exploring your body, because masturbation isn’t just about your vagina. Although that is where you finger yourself.
#4 Find a safe place. Masturbating when your friend is in the next room may be a little risky, because they might walk in. You want to masturbate when you’re in a safe and relaxing space. Put on some music or your favorite movie – whatever turns you on. This is your time to pleasure yourself, so tailor it to your liking.
#5 Incorporate toys. If you’re trying to learn about your body, I wouldn’t recommend using toys right away. Take the time to figure out how to orgasm using your fingers, and once you’ve mastered that, then use toys during masturbation.
You can use vibrators or dildos. They’ll be able to stimulate you, and plus, it’s fun to mix things up a bit.
#6 Caress your clit. When you finger yourself, you’ll also want to focus on your clitoris. Take your fingers and move then up and down or side-to-side. Personally, I find up and down works better.
You can slip in another finger if you like, however, usually women stick to either one or two fingers.
#7 Slide your fingers in. You can then slide either one or two fingers inside, either all the way in or partially. Bend your fingers a bit, they’ll rub against your wall creating more stimulation. It’ll feel great, and you’ll have a higher chance of hitting your g-spot. Try to find a rhythm with your fingers that further stimulates you.
#8 Find your g-spot. You’ll know when you found your g-spot, trust me. If you’re wondering where it is, the g-spot is 2 to 3 inches inside the vagina. It’s on the front wall and you’ll feel a rough patch – that’s the spot. The g-spot can give you a more intense orgasm – who wouldn’t want that?
#9 Stimulate your g-spot. When figuring out how to finger yourself, this is the best part. Once you’ve found your g-spot, play around with your speed and build up the friction – that will create an orgasm.
Some women describe the feeling as being flushed and hot. You won’t necessarily achieve an orgasm. However, the sensation is still amazing.
#10 Slowly build up to an orgasm. You won’t be able to orgasm just with the snap of a finger. You’re going to need to build up to it. You need to turn yourself on, make yourself wet – you see, it’s a process. You can finger yourself rougher, however, if you think that masturbating for two minutes will do the trick, it won’t.
#11 Don’t change positions too much. This will take some time as you’ll need to figure out what position helps you achieve an orgasm when you finger yourself. If you’re close to orgasming, I recommend not moving into another position.
What happens is that you actually delay yourself from orgasming every time you move. Of course, if you don’t want to orgasm right away, well, then move.
#12 Mix up the tempo. Masturbating doesn’t have a special formula when you finger yourself. Everyone is different, and your body’s reaction can be the opposite of how you thought it would react.
So, try out different speeds, roughness, positions – do not be shy. You need to know what works for your body.
#13 When you hit the big O. Once you’ve orgasmed, don’t pull out your fingers right away. Not only does it feel better when they’re left in there for a bit, but if you pull them out too fast it can feel uncomfortable and even cause you pain.
#14 Enjoy post-masturbation. If you’ve just masturbated, don’t rush to go grocery shopping after. Take some time to just chill out and reflect on how you just fingered yourself. A quickie is always fun, but you don’t have to rush this time.
How to finger yourself anally
You don’t have to try fingering your anus right away, but while you’re masturbating, slip one finger into your anus and slide it in and out. It’ll feel great and also makes you even hornier.
Just a word of caution if you do want to try this. Make sure you’ve cleaned yourself beforehand. And secondly, don’t slip the same finger back into your vagina again, to prevent any kind of infection down there.
Have some fun!
As a beginner, or even as someone who’s tried this before, learning how to finger yourself can seem pretty intimidating. You’re nervous, it all sounds so scary and weird. But just trust yourself and focus on your pleasure. If it feels good, it’s probably the right way for you!
Take the night off, put some music on, lay on your bed and just take some time in exploring how to finger yourself. Masturbation is so fun and also pretty educational. Who would have thought?