How to Get Over a Girl Who Doesn’t Like You Without Getting Bitter

How to Get Over a Girl Who Doesn’t Like You Without Getting Bitter

Do you like a girl, and for some reason she doesn’t like you? Here’s how to get over a girl and transform yourself into a desirable catch at the same time!

When you start to like a girl, everything just feels better. The world looks more beautiful, there’s a skip in your step, and you’re just happy. But when she turns you down, everything goes from good to the bitter worst. Ever been there? Almost all of us have! As a right of passage, knowing how to get over a girl who doesn’t like you is something all of us need to learn.

And that’s where many guys go wrong, and this affects them for the rest of their lives. You can either choose to learn from your mistakes, heal, and become a better guy. Or you can choose to stay blind to your faults and assume the girl who turned you down is a real bitch! *just so you know, she probably isn’t!*

But let’s be honest, it’s so frustrating, isn’t it? I mean, you’re such a great guy and yet she’s interested in other guys who don’t seem even half as good as you! Ever been there?

Well, I have. I’ve been there plenty of times and I’ve learnt a few important lessons on that path too.

How to learn the right lessons and get over the girl at the same time

You’re here because you want to get over a girl who doesn’t like you back. But every time you get turned down, you’d feel just a bit worse about yourself. So here, we’re not going to just talk about how you can get over a girl, but also about how you can man up and learn from it. That way, you never have to experience the same kind of heartbreak and rejection ever again.

Of course, there will always be heartbreaks. They are inevitable. BUT as far as possible, you can avoid the same kind of mistakes, and get better every step along the way. So let’s get straight into where we guys go wrong, and how you can get over a girl, and be the awesome guy you were born to be!

How to get over a girl who doesn’t like you

Ever since my teenage years, I’ve fallen hard for quite a few girls. And every now and then, a girl that I liked would speak nicely to me, get friendly with me and then crush my heart when I ask her to go out with me.

I mean, these girls did say I was a nice guy. They would even compliment me all the time. And sometimes, I would even hear the dreaded lines, “why can’t more guys be like you” or “why can’t I find a guy like you…?” Really, I’m a guy like me!!

For a long time in my childhood years, when I did work up the courage to ask a girl out on a date, they would appear shocked or embarrassed and tell me that they never looked at me *that way*.

And once the proposal ends, the awkwardness begins. Things were never the same again with the girls I asked out. A few girls I liked stayed in touch as distant friends, while many girls started avoiding me.

The girls I liked moved on, and I was the one stuck with a heartbreak that I had to deal with. It was traumatic at times, because I never really got to know what was wrong with me or what was better with the other guys they seemed to like.

Where I went wrong in my pursuit of girls

As guys, we have epic egos. We think we’re all perfect definitions of the male species. But more often than not, many of us are flawed. So you think you’re a great guy. But does the world feel the same about you?

Would you consider yourself as one of the most desirable guys when you walk into any room? Does everyone else look up at you and your friends as the most popular guys around? When I was in college, I always thought my friends and I were really cool. But now when I look back at my college photos, I can see that I was a nice guy, but I was not as popular or cool as I had once assumed. *cringe!*

Sometimes, all of us need a reality check. If a girl you’ve fallen for likes another guy, don’t try convincing yourself that the world sucks because you’re a better guy. Try to see the other guy’s good side and see in what ways he’s better than you.

Sometimes we just have no choice if a girl doesn’t like us

In a completely different scenario, sometimes you just have no say if a girl doesn’t like you. There was this girl I liked a lot and she liked me too. We were friends, and we would flirt. We would go out on dates, hook up occasionally and kept things easy in the talking stage and friend stage. This continued for a few months and I started to fall for her. Around the same time, she met another guy whom she started talking to.

She would talk to him all the time and even make out with him. She’s single and she had every right to do whatever she pleased. But that made me jealous, and I wanted her to be all mine. I started telling her that I really liked her and wanted to be with her in a more-than-just-friends way. But the more I pursued her, the further away she drifted from me. And one fine day, she told me that she wanted to end things between us because she had started dating this other guy.

Apparently, she liked me a lot, but I just wasn’t the kind of guy she wanted to be in a relationship with. I was angry, bitter and sad. But to be fair to this girl, I wasn’t dating her and she had the choice to date anyone she liked. There was nothing I could do but move on.

The lessons we can learn from our own heartbreaks

Now, there are lessons you can learn when you ask a girl out, when she turns you down, and when you work your way towards getting over her. If you do learn these lessons, you’ll definitely end up becoming a better guy who’s desired by girls, every step along the way.

The 6 lessons to remember in getting over a girl

In my failed romances and experiences with getting dumped by girls I hadn’t even dated, here are a few things I’ve learnt.

#1 A nice guy isn’t always a desirable guy. If she tells you you’re a nice guy, or that she loves spending time with you, it still doesn’t mean she wants to date you or sleep with you.

#2 If a girl flirts with you, it doesn’t mean she likes you. She may be attracted to you, but perhaps she has other reasons to not want to date you.

#3 We can all change our minds. One of the girls I liked was a good friend of mine. She would even say that she loved me. I was intensely attracted to her, but we weren’t dating yet. To the rest of the world, we were friends. But during our conversations late into the light, we spoke like lovers.

And just like that, one fine day, she just started avoiding me. And I had no idea why. She wouldn’t reason it out with me though. She just told me that our relationship was all wrong. We’re not friends anymore but I was still hooked to her. And to this day, I have no idea why she started ignoring me.

#4 Life can be unpredictable and unfair. Deal with it. Sometimes, circumstances are beyond your control. The girl you like may be madly in love with another guy. Or she may already be dating someone else exclusively. Or there may be some other reason you’ll probably never know. Don’t go looking for closure because you’ll never get it. The only thing you need to remember here is this – What matters is that life is unpredictable and sometimes not in your favor, you just need to accept it.

#5 Preferences and choices. We all have our own choices in the kind of partner we like. The girl you like has a choice to turn you down. If a girl you find unsuitable asks you out, you may be flattered, but you’d still turn her down, wouldn’t you? Why is it wrong if the girl you like does the same to you?

#6 Learn to let go of your anger. You’re upset and angry. But that just won’t help you. Let go of the rage and move on. You win some and you lose some. Enjoy the game of life with no regrets or frustrations.

The 6 things to learn from a bad proposal

If you’ve asked a girl out and she turned you down, learn from the experience and see if there are any flaws about yourself you can pick from it. Perhaps, you were being hasty or pushy, or you still have a few personality flaws that need to be fixed. Here are 6 things you need to learn before trying to get over her.

#1 Don’t be hasty. Don’t rush in too fast in the heat of the moment. If you’re too easy to get or reveal just how much you LOVE a girl too soon, she may take you lightly and walk all over you.

#2 What are your flaws? Every single guy in the world, even the best of smooth talkers, have a few flaws. When you look back at how you asked a girl out, remember the way she behaved initially and how she changed when you asked her out. Could you have changed something about the way you went about pursuing her or dating her?

#3 Build the tension. Never pop the question out of the blue. You like her, and she seems interested in you. Instead of looking for ways to let her know about the undying, everlasting love you have for her, look for ways to make the conversations and the relationship more exciting.

Make her go weak in her knees without letting her know how crazy you are about her. Make her fall for you even before you confess that you’re falling for her.

#4 Always know the answer before you ask the question. This is a very important life lesson here. Don’t get into a fight you know you’ll lose. And don’t tell a girl you like her before you know her intentions about you. If you’ve already been on a few dates with her, there’s a good chance she likes you. But wait until you’re certain about her feelings before you reveal yours.

#5 Understand what turns her off. There are many things that turn a girl off. And many guys don’t know the things that matter to a girl. Find out the things that turn her off and avoid them. You need to be a great guy to get a great girl to fall for you.

#6 Become the guy all girls desire. There are a few traits about guys that all girls find irresistible. Become that perfect guy and all girls will like you as a friend and desire you as a lover. Be that guy and you’ll see how easy it is to get any girl you like.

How to get over a girl and move on

Now that you’ve learnt from your past errors, here are the steps you need to take to become a better guy and learn how to get over a girl you like at the same time.

#1 It takes time. You have to deal with it. There’s no easy way to get over a girl you like. All you can do is keep yourself distracted until the wound heals.

#2 Shut her from your mind. Don’t think of her. If her thoughts come to your mind, think of something else. It feels good to remember her face or look at her new photos and updates on social media. But you’re only making the whole experience hurt more.

You’ve lost her and she’s not coming back. So why are you hurting yourself for no reason? Do you enjoy the self-inflicted humiliation of zooming into her photos on your screen while she’s falling for someone else, or hooking up with another guy? Are you not feeling pathetic enough already?

#3 Don’t become a new guy. Don’t change your personality around her after she tells you that she doesn’t like you. Don’t get moody or grumpy when she’s around. You’re not a petulant child, so grow a pair and behave like a man.

Your plea for attention will fall on deaf ears and she may even avoid you further because you’re acting like a weird prick. And you’ll be the one that’s hurting even more. She doesn’t like you, so even if you try to get her attention by avoiding her, she wouldn’t care!

#4 Don’t behave like a hopeless romantic. If you get drunk or talk endlessly about her, you’re not doing yourself a favor. Learn from the experience and try to avoid the same errors the next time you like a girl.

#5 Give up. Share your feelings with her just one more time if you really want to, but in a casual manner. If that doesn’t work, give up and never hope for her to say yes again. Keeping your hopes alive will stunt you from becoming a better guy, pursuing another girl, or even moving on with your life.

#6 Don’t look at her as a prize. “If I get richer, she’ll date me,” “If I start behaving better, she’ll date me”, “If I get fitter, she’ll f**k me”. Well, f**k you, because none of this will happen. These lines looping in your mind will only make you more miserable. You’re only making yourself more vulnerable to heartbreak because quite frankly, she doesn’t care about you or who you are anymore.

#7 Don’t plot revenge. She has a right to say no to you, just like you have the right to say no to a girl you find uninteresting. Accept her choice and move on. Plotting revenge will stagnate your life and leave you obsessing about her even more. Learn to face rejection, and deal with it. That’s the only way to become a better version of you.

#8 Find other girls to pursue. This is the best way to get over a girl you like. You’ve had your chance and you blew it. So screw it and move on. Learn from your errors and find someone else to flirt with. If you make the right moves this time around, you’ll definitely get the girl you like and get over the girl who broke your heart at the same time!

Use this guide on how to get over a girl who doesn’t like you and you’ll definitely learn from the experience. And the best part is that it’ll make you a much better guy who’ll eventually get a much better girl too!


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